Dear bob:

Reads to me that she was very distressed for a long time having you and your two boys living in her house, altogether three children and two adults. She waited patiently for years, waited that you will arrange for a bigger house for the five of you. Finally, she got tired of waiting and ended the relationship.

For some reason she expected you to arrange for a house for all of you. Did you tell her that you will, promising her that you will arrange for a house?

She gave up, no longer hoping for the move to a bigger house.

Because she is not willing to reconsider, and because she has no reason (does she?) to think that if she gave you another chance you will, this time, arrange for  a house for all  of you, what kind of help do you need now, here on this website?

anita