Dear Rei:

I don’t see a way for you “to get over her” for as long as you live with her and for as long as she continue to mistreat you as she has been doing for a while. There is no way I know of to be mistreated and not mind it.

I know of only one way to feel okay and when a person mistreats you and that is to have no contact with the mistreating party, to not be there for the mistreatment.

You told your parents, and unfortunately not only did they not help you but told you that you shouldn’t be angry (or very angry, which is what hate is, as I understand it) with the person who is mistreating you. It would have been helpful if they asserted themselves with your sister, their daughter, and demanded that she will not mistreat you and then follow through and make sure that she doesn’t.

It is only natural to feel angry when mistreated.

Do you have any idea what is fueling your sister’s anger (anger that, reads to me, is not about anything you did wrong to her)?

anita