Dear Fruzsina:

You wrote: “I care about these people and would run to them if they needed my help or support”- I have no doubt that you will, but your motivation is not solely to help them, but to not be alone. From communicating with you earlier, especially in your thread of Oct last year, in most cases (with the exclusion perhaps of your relationship with your mother and sister), you need people more than they need you.

You need people more than they need you.

I wrote to you late last year that it “is not about being an emotionally healthy extrovert but about that anxiety spinning your wheels”.

You are anxious and have been anxious since childhood, scared of being alone and so, you are driven to have others present in your life, to socialize. And you need that socialization to be available for you whenever you feel anxious, which is often.

I don’t think anyone, however loving and however willing, can satisfy your need for him or her to be as available as you need them to be. Do you think it may be true, what I just stated here?

anita