Dear joanna:

I believe I understand. But do you believe me, that I understand, that I experienced something very similar and for many, many years? I remember this experience (now much relieved, much changed) being so intense, so hopeless, that in it was that belief that no one feels this way. The conviction in that experience was that I was all alone, the only one. This belief is inherent in this experience of intense emotional pain, part of it, that one is all alone, trapped, in desperate need for help that is not there.

Maybe there is a thought there, that such pain is so intense, so devastating, that it can’t be common, no way. A thought that it is so devastating that someone has to do something to help me! I mean, if anyone only knew how much it hurts, they would help me. They are not helping, therefore they must not know how much it hurts.

Do you relate to this?

anita