LowLife,

I am sorry for your pain and self loathing (your Tiny Buddha name reveals that).  I cannot imagine the loneliness and self doubt you are feeling for not having a romantic relationship at all during your young life.

I cannot critique your conversational style and content but I want to share my approach.  1) I listen with curiosity.  People love talking about themselves.  If you are genuinely interested in who they are then they will talk with you.  2) I don’t have any attachment to the outcome of my conversations with women.  I don’t expect to walk away with their number or even them to stay and talk with me.  I look at each encounter as an opportunity to enrich my life for that moment by getting to know them.  3) I am positive.  People sense whether or not you are an Eeyore gloomy type or negative person.  They don’t have to talk with you in order to pick that up.  People like being around positive and enthusiastic people.  4) Focus on how lovely the other person is.  I’m not talking about their physical appearance.  We are all God’s children.  If you see their heart, their innate divinity, and how we are all One and connected with each other then they will sense that and you will approach them with a better attitude.

You talk about having the mindset and focus on how much money you are going to lose today and feeling trapped as well as feeling disgusted with yourself.

I am so sorry that you are in such pain.  I know that there are no magic fixes.  It takes persistence, consistency and discipline in loving and mindful practices in order to turn around a lifetime of habits and pain.  Check out the Metta (loving kindness) Meditation as a start.  I know that having a daily gratitude practice has been proven to help with happiness.  There are a bunch of other practices which others can chime in and share as well as practices you can Google to find.

Mark

The Wounds of Rejection Heal With Self-Love and Self-Awareness

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