Hi JonathanSeagull,
Why was she dating when she had an infant son?? That I don’t like.
You don’t know how he will one day be as the boy is now a toddler, and toddlers are notorious for being, well, DIFFICULT. Then the child will enter into the cute, adorable stage. When he’s in school you will most clearly see his true personality. Then when he’s a teenager he will either be tremendously difficult… or you won’t see him at all.
Either way, are you willing to pay for college one day? Have (or not have) future children based on him? Discipline him (or not discipline him)? Love him like he’s your own? Be able to cut off all relationship with him if you and the mother break up?
I say congratulations for being so honest with yourself! And perhaps leave, for the good of everyone involved.
Best,
Inky
P.S. I was a step child on both sides. Loved at most by one, and tolerated at best by the other. Do you want the boy to feel “tolerated” all of his young life?
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