Poppyxo,

That’s really good advice. I try to break his habits by explaining that it is not okay, sometimes even telling him the relationship won’t work. He has changed a little bit. Unfortunately before he never wanted me to hang out with my friends while now he does. Obviously I am going to hang out with my friends regardless of what he says so I guess he just learned to stop being so controlling. I don’t know, things are a little better I guess. But that’s also really funny that you mentioned love languages. I just took that test yesterday and also got physical touch, while my boyfriend got acts of service. I used to see him asking me to do things for him as another sign of being controlling, but after taking this test I realize maybe that’s not the case. I would get annoyed when he’d ask me to do things for him and he’d get upset when I acted like I didn’t care to help him. I definitely understand now that that’s just how he needs me to show him I care. But while I understand now he needs me to show him I care by doing things for him, I still think his reaction to when I don’t do things was a little unhealthy. He used to get super angry when I wouldn’t do things (maybe to hide his hurt), but now he is more understanding for some reason. He doesn’t get as angry. Maybe he is beginning to understand that I still love him regardless.