Dear Anita

I understand. I understand you shared this with me to show me how ridiculous is my idea of a child being guilty, same as baby being guilty of doing what you “did”.

I also was born with footling breech problem, and my mother was very skinny and didn’t care about herself during pregnancy. She told me she carried heavy shopping, because my father didn’t help her. Anyway she never directly blamed me for that, but I suspect it was then that she started to be ashamed of me because I had some issue with one leg and had to wear something on it for couple of weeks after birth. After that it was normal. I’m not even sure what that was or what it looked like.

Yes I am sure I would have stood straight if she didn’t bully me for that. All children slouched at school because of carrying backpacks. I remember teachers said it. But only my mother picked this up and started to treat me for this (sending me to hospitals – which is one the worst nightmares in my life) and bullying me everyday. I started to slouch more as a consequence of her behavior. Same with speech defect, I don’t have it, I had it when I was a child because she bullied me and it worsened. She caused it. So yes, my flaws, at least some of them were a result of her behavior.