Dear Anita

I can’t do it, because they live there and I won’t throw them out. They also have the right to live in one room till they die (the house is 200m2). I would be able to buy a flat, but it would take more than a half so she would have to agree to it, and she wouldn’t be left with much money, certainly not to build a house. So she would have to be that kind to let me do what I want to. Buying a flat is the only way for me to move to smaller city, renting is expensive and it’s pointless spending money every month. It’s better to own one. I told her this, first she thought I was talking about selling this flat and she would also move to smaller city, and asked what about a house, what about a flat here, I said I don’t care, I would like my own place, and this city O. seems nice. She said we can sell everything and buy a flat for me if I want to. And she would stay here. I think she felt hurt by that. So there. ..

I talked to him about moving to O. when was here to get his things in February. He said it’s a very bad idea. That there are cheaper flats here too, away from the centre of the city, like his brother has bought, besides what about the job, it’s too far and generally no. He said I didn’t think it over and I rush, and told me not to do it. He works in an office on the same street where I live, 500 meters away from my flat.  No, I wasn’t motivated to stay here because of that. Now when you asked, when thinking about it, that would mean we would never meet ( in current situation: he wouldn’t be able to come by for an hour after work to have sex, so yes that’s a tough decision for me, a lot to lose). Yes that makes me think, I admit, but I don’t think that would be enough reason to stay if had the real chance to move out.