Eve,

It sounds like you are still learning how to have close relationships and to communicate.  It seems to me that this is something that needs to be learned and fostered regardless it is with your ex or not.  People we draw into our lives are mirrors to us and it is up to us to open our eyes and let go of our ego and learn from our interactions with them.

It IS hard not to have someone that “gets” you especially if you lost that one person.  I sometimes yearn for that for I work on being transparent and vulnerable so I can connect deeply with those around me.

There are very few who do “get” me but realistically it is more about being with others who are sensitive, empathetic, non-judgmental, understanding and loving.  I think it is more about having those qualities than really knowing who I am.  In fact I believe that people having those qualities then they would really know who I am and anyone else.

I have no advice on whether or not you should get back to him.  I believe that if you want to co-create close and loving relationships then be that for yourself and for others.  It does not have anything to do with being romantic.

That’s my Two Cents.

Mark