Hi Mark,

thanks so much for your answer! I really appreciate it!

Yes, we have spoken about is quite often already and we usually have good communication but with this topic we keep running against a wall or better neither of us feels understood by the other one.

And yes, you are right, ultimately he needs this reassurance after being away for those days and not getting it, obviously hurts and makes him question and he starts drawing back and then even more distance is being created.

I am aware how different we are and did the test in the beginning with him. Acts of Service is my top scorer and for him it’s touch and words.

In the end, I will talk to him again those days and well, both of us need to make a step towards each other in terms of understanding and seeing what we can do as a team without feeling loved less and just seeing that this has nothing to do with my love for him. But well, one has in his had that the partner should be oh so happy when the other one is returning and if that is not the case, then something must be wrong. That really bugs me. And I feel somehow selfish for “not just giving to him what he needs”, just expressing happiness and be sweet when he is back, but somehow I get very blocked.

Mark, much luck with your new relationship! All the best!

Julia