Dear anon11:

Regarding the tickets to Europe and the money lost: if you cancel the tickets in April 15, will it be more money lost than if you cancelled it today? How about May 1 or May 15? If it is the same amount of money lost if you cancel today or in a month from now, you can postpone cancelling the tickets until later.

What is his position about the trip and the waste of money involved in cancelling it?

Regarding getting him back: you want him back too much for your own good and for the good of the relationship. Your intense desire for him to be with you is in your way. In other words, it is harmful to the relationship, not helpful.

Best for you, I believe, is to adjust to the idea, intend to accept the idea that the relationship is over. Think of his well-being. He wants and should do well in his university studies and there were lots of fights with you, taking away from his studies.

Don’t you want him to do well in university, to be calm? Give him the space he needs not for the purpose of manipulating him, that is, waiting for him to miss you. Give him the space because he really needs it.

And entertain the thought, form an intent in your mind, to accept that this space may be permanent. It may be that, permanent.

anita