Dear anon11:

You are welcome.

You wrote that you are “simply trying to fight for him back”. In your original post you wrote: “Towards the end of our relationship we were fighting a fair bit”.

I know it is a different kind of fighting, but if fighting for him now involves putting pressure on him, that would be a kind of aggression that will push him away, I think.

Better fighting for him means giving him the space he needs and be gentle with him, no pressure.

Regarding the money lost, I suppose you can wait for a while and see if in a few weeks or so he reaches out to you with a change of mind.

I hope you have the endurance it does take to not reach out to the person you love so much. It takes a lot to not do so…

anita