Dear MeowAnna:

You are welcome. I don’t view it as contradictory, that you enjoy time alone and that you feel abandoned when your boyfriend travels to work. Back to the child that you were, any child needs to  know her primary care taker (usually the mother) is there. It is when the child feels the mother is there, not far away, that she feels safe enough to explore. As she explores a distance away, she looks back to make sure the mother is  still there.

As adults we still need a combination of alone time/ exploring and together time/ safety.

anita