* double posting. I wrote what is below before I knew you posted the above. Will leave the below as is, read what you posted and reply again.

Dear Jenny Lynn:

I wrote above that I am glad your relationship with him is over because of  his serious, heavy duty anger problem. His anger is not  something you created. Not something you were responsible for and there is nothing you could have done about it.

He was angry before you met him and he directed it at you, making your  life miserable. I don’t see any way that this would have changed. Nothing you could have done differently and nothing you could ever do to change that.

He got angry and he stayed angry and that was it.

You might feel miserable now. While living with him you had hope once in a while, and that hope kept you going. Now, without that hope, you might be feeling depressed. You also have some good memories and we do tend to get nostalgic, remembering the good moments in isolation, without the misery all around those moments.

But now that you are not with him, at least you have the chance for a better life. You have the chance to meet a decent man who is not stuck in pre-existing anger, a man who is not intent to punish you every time his old anger gets triggered.

You have a chance to have a relationship where you are not going to be stuck being in the wrong, accused of being in the wrong.

I hope you have faith in a better future regardless how it feels now.

anita