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Yeah people like that rarely change or find someone they find “worthy” of that change.
They just end up finding someone who tolerates it all.
I bow out. I am not strong enough to self sooth thru his anger the rest of my life.
There is probably someone who is either strong enough,…or weak enough to fulfill him. It isn’t me though.
I’ve quantified the time we spend together in regards of a normal relationship….
I have spent everyday of the past year and 2 months with him….
453 days…minus when I wasnt at work or sleep. That leaves 8 hours a day consumed with him…and us…
8 hours a day for 453 days is= 3624 hours.
The average couple only sees each other 2-4 times a week. Ranging thru a 1-2 sessions at first dating, 2-3 continuing on, and then 4 sessions leading up to the year mark where researchers say most couples see each other every day. So for upwards of 3 hours to possibly to a night cap couples are spending time together.
So in 1 year the average couple has spent (going with median 4 hours per session and a average sliding scale of the dating time) around 600 hours together. Then that subsequent year mark where seeing each other everyday starts that totals 1460 hours a year…..
So in respect to the rough scale I just made my relationship felt like almost 3 and a half years.
Now that is something to sink your teeth into.
It was all just too much.