Dear Cat:

There are eight hours between us, 10 pm for me is 6 am the next day, for you. By professional then, you mean calm, not reactive to your own emotions, keeping some objectivity and therefore being able to provide logical, sensible advice to others.

I suppose your sister doesn’t take in much of your input, hasn’t so far, is because your logic cannot calm her anxiety. It is anxiety, the ongoing fear, that causes us to… rush through logic and find some comfort in habitual behavior.

You asked me: “Do you think- that throughout your life, and these situations- that maybe you didn’t act upon these things at the time, because you weren’t fully aware of the harmful impacts they were having?”-

back to my two examples (simplifying the matter somewhat), when I was about to cross the busy street, I didn’t hear the sounds of traffic because I was hearing the thoughts in my brain, and those thoughts were loud and angry, accusing me of this and that. When I stayed up at night hearing the loud sounds of the drug addicted roommate, I was too  tired of hearing the thoughts I mentioned above, all day long, to figure anything out.

To experience calm, silence in one’s brain, that is a wonderful thing. I think that when you help others, your friends, your sister, focusing on their problems, you get a silent break from your own loud thoughts, don’t you?

anita