You are welcome dreaming715.

You need to be explicitly direct with your boyfriend.  No hinting.  No reading between the lines.  No open ended “deadlines.”

Guys are dense and need to be hit over the head when it comes to communicating.

When you say you “like to revisit where we are in our relationship” “around January 2019” what you really mean is that you want a ring and a date for your wedding for the purposes of a legally committed marriage and to have children.  If you make it nebulous and open ended like that then you will continue to have the same thing as before.

I suggest you two make a specific date for the wedding and have him give you a ring to signify the engagement.  Plus you have already communicated with him that the consequence of not committing to that is that you will leave the relationship by XXX date sometime before January 2019 so this won’t come as a surprise that you are serious about this

Mark