Dear Katie:

I don’t know how you look like but I trust you, from having read some of your previous threads, that you are not ugly.

You wrote: “What’s going on???”- I think what is going on is that you are very self centered, believing somehow that the world needs to revolve around you, accommodate your every desire.

In this thread your desire is that guys will go after you. It doesn’t matter to you that if they do, their feelings will get hurt when you reject them (because you already have a boyfriend), or that they may get hurt by your boyfriend (who you stated looks intimidating and to whom you may tell, if anther guy goes after you). None of these things matter.

What matters is that guys go after you so that you will feel good, so that you feel as good as other girls who have boyfriends and other guys go after them anyway.

What matters is that you feel good, that is the only thing that matters. This is what I mean by being very self centered.

It will serve you better in life to exit that mindset, and take in other people’s well-being into your consideration.

anita