Dear Airene:

Thank you, it is definitely pleasant to read being “a voice of reason, compassion and non-judgment”. When I started posting here I was plenty judgmental. Because of ongoing learning, I am less judgmental, less and less. Didn’t aim at not being judgmental, it naturally happens with learning, over time.

You wrote: “I do have anger, but didn’t consider that it’s associated with being submissive”. What happens when we submit to another’s abuse, to another misusing his or her power over us? What happens… some decide it will never happen again and they make sure it won’t by seeing to it that others submit to them, that they are on top. Others turn inward, hurt themselves or take pills/ drugs to numb that anger.

The anger resulting from submitting to abuse, that anger doesn’t go away. Does it, in your experience?

anita