Anita– these questions are very invasive and I don’t think that they are very helpful nor would they help solve anything, although I think that’s what you are trying to do (help– I hope).  As you mention, rape is absolutely a sensitive topic and you should not be prying into the details of what happened to Emma nor asking for the how’s and what’s about how it went down.  This is incredibly personal and private information that is totally irrelevant to helping and supporting Emma through this.

I think it would have been best to sit with your own uncomfortable feelings about the word and concept of “rape” and do your own inner reflection on why that is bringing up so many strong feelings and what this has to do with you; rather than ask such prying and inappropriate questions of someone on the internet who has been so, so vulnerable and open to just start exploring these things.  It would have been appropriate to go with those uncomfortable feelings and not pry further.  Asking these questions can be just as damaging in a much different and I’m really disappointed to see this.

Emma– please do not answer these questions.  This is not appropriate and you are well within your rights to share what information you want, when you want.  This applies to the paramedics as well.