Dear Vaibhav:

My suggestion is that you separate your strong emotions from reality, just long enough to see reality best you can.

She is living in London, for now. She promised you “to not to go to parties or if she went she won’t consume more than one drink”-

Notice this promise: she promised you to “not go to parties”. But then, in the same sentence, she told you that she may go to parties. So… she cancelled her own promise to not go to parties.

Let’s look at the other promise: “she won’t consume more than one drink”. It is difficult to many, most maybe even all people who do enjoy alcohol to have only one drink. How likely is she to only have one drink. Once there in a party, with music and under the pleasant influence of one drink, how likely is it that there will not be another drink.

She compromised on the first promise already, cancelled it in one sentence. Will she not likely say something like this to herself, if she tries to keep the second promise: I will have one drink, but a strong drink… or if she has a light first drink, she may say: this was only .. wine, a second wine glass still counts as one drink if compared to whiskey, let’s say.

What do you think?

anita