“This” in her statement was about us being unhappy and ultimately leaving her.  I cited times when I was less than willing to indulge her interests as well as me being the one that controlled all the finances.  I apologized for not being around as much as I could have been as well…Things like that.

As for the title of my thread, I seek help letting go on forums and books and, frustratingly so, most of those books and threads are about helping the person who got dumped, not the dumper.  I am in this horrible place trying to let go and I feel a bit like I dont have the right to ask for help when Im the one who initiated the breakup.  I took the action that is making me feel so empty (leaving).  That is why I say it is my fault.

That is NOT to say that the relationship issues were not, in part, my fault.  They absolutely were.  I just feel like she has never seen any issues with her own behavior and is unwilling to acknowledge then, let alone, work on them.