Dear abubin:

Congratulations for doing what I believe was the right thing to do, ending that relationship.

“how do I stop thinking about her at night when I go to bed?”-

My answer, at this point: do not try to not think about her. Relax your fear of thinking about her. When you think about her at night time, relax the fear attached to those thoughts. Let the thoughts be, let them come and go, come and stay. Let them be.

These thoughts are not dangerous. They are just thoughts, invisible activities in your brain. Nothing is happening outside of you when you have these thoughts.

We think all the time almost, when awake, many thousands of thoughts every day. These are just thoughts, nothing to be alarmed about.

anita