Dear Richard:

You were married 23 years, separated nine months, dating a new woman. You initiated the separation for all the right reasons, you wrote. But you are unable to stop thinking about her, playing songs, “drowning in memories of her, of us, of the good times”.

You wrote, “I endured this behavior for 23 years”. To endure, the verb, suggests an unpleasant, distressing experience. “this behavior” is her jealous, possessive and controlling behaviors, and never admitting her wrong doing (“NEVER in our entire relationship admitted wrong doing, or communicated a sincere ‘I’m sorry'”

Here is another place you used the verb to endure: “I was constantly bullied and picked on because of my socioeconomic status and I just silently endured.”

Will you share about the hurt, the anger, the sadness that you endured for 23 years with this woman?

anita