Dear Yostina:

Fear is the most powerful emotion that is, and an effective motivator. Except fear does not motivate people to heal, to expand emotionally, to consider new ideas. It keeps people contracted, not open to re-evaluate (or to evaluate things they accepted before, for the first time).

There is no easy solution to your problem, unfortunately. The only way I can see going about it, at this point (and I do hope members who have personal experience with this will respond to your thread), is to tell them and to assert yourself at the same time. To tell them what behaviors you will not accept, for example: talking to you about anything to do with religion, with church.

I am sure you will express to them your concern for their well being and how difficult it has been for you to tell them what you had to tell them.

anita