Hello!

Firstly I want to say that I am not married so perhaps people who have been married or are married on tiny bhudda would be able to give you better advice here.

I just wanted to say in my view please please enjoy what you have with your boyfriend. Pressuring him into proposing is not going to help and could ruin or drive a wedge through your relationship. You say you love him more than words so perhaps just trust him and he will get there. I was pressure by my boyfriend to buy a house and it did affect our relationship for a long while so I’m saying this with sort of experience. Just because he hasn’t proposed does not make you a less of a person or girlfriend or partner than your friends who have. It is not a reflection of your self worth.

Also, just because your friends have got engaged or are married doesn’ mean it will last forever or that because they have it wont it doesnt mean you wont. There is enough to go round. I don’t say that to be negative, it’s more just accepting that everyone has their own life to live and race to run, so whilst you are the only one out of your friends to get married, compared to the whole world you aren’t. I like to think people have their own paths.

My final thought is to perhaps just ask yourself why you are putting marriage on such a pedestal and what it exactly means to you and why it’s so important. It could be your boyfriend’s reasons for marriage are very different so that’ why he isn’t working to the same timescale as you.

There are lots of YouTube videos/ted talks or books about letting go of expectations so perhaps they could help.