Dear Minnivei:

In your original post you asked: “Does love have to feel like butterflies in your stomach in the beginning? I don’t feel it, does it mean I just don’t love him?”

The butterflies you mentioned in regard to a man in your life, there is a sexual component to it. Another component to the loving feeling you have or don’t have to a man is not sexual.

The non sexual component is what I asked you about, your childhood experience with your parents. You answered: “I never had deep discussions with my parents”.

Having deep discussions with a man will be love for you, won’t it?

You wrote: “back then, my father always drove me to school, my mom always prepared a lunchbox for me. That’s all.”

In your original post you wrote that you have “zero dating experience”, at 22. When you imagine a date, what does it consist of, what activity or activities?

anita