You are very right gosh if and when im healed and start dating again i aspire to find a mature man as you mentioned. His threats im sure are physical, financial, social, any method he can use to hurt me he will. He is already on a full fledged smear campaign  telling anyone who listen that i am wicked and should suffer. I try to remain calm but lm living with my parents temporarily at their house where my sister and her daughter also live its wearing me down. I cannot heal with all the different attitudes and interests and opinions constantly being thrown at me. I just need peace. I know their hearts are in the right place for me but when they try to impose their toxic issues on to me I can’t take it.