Hello Katie.

I’m really sorry you’re going through this. I can only imagine the pain you’re feeling. I know it hurts like hell and all you want to do is talk to him, see that he’s sorry for what he did and he said.

My opinion is that he is emotionally abusive. I’m 90% sure he didn’t mean anything he told you but he felt threatened and he wanted to make you feel sorry for not doing what he wants and this is unhealthy. And it’s HIS problem.

The best thing to do is to cut all contact with him. Most probably talking to him will make you feel more pain or at least it will keep the wound open. He doesn’t really believe what he told you, so don’t believe it either. If he chose the break up, accept it. But don’t talk to him anymore.