Katie,

Sorry for your pain.  I am wondering what does your marriage counselor say about the state of your marriage?

Do you think that some of your sadness and pain is coming from the changes in your body because of your pregnancy?

I can understand the need to have your husband as a companion who emotionally supports you and being physically affectionate the way you want it but for whatever reason he is not doing so.

I can only offer a suggestion to look for other ways and other people to comfort you, to keep you company, to feel love from.  Your mother, your daughter, your close friends…

Was it better when you lived with your mother?  that he did not take you for granted?  Maybe going back to your mother is a short term fix for now until you deliver?

You can only change yourself, not him.  You can make request or demands or pleas but ultimately he will do what he wants to do.  You can shift the focus from him as the problem to focusing on finding ways of taking care of yourself without depending on him.

Mark