Dear cass:

Would you like to look more into your childhood, your inadequate/ less-than core belief formed then or would you like to look more into this past relationship with this man?

Maybe none of these, let me know.

If you choose the first, will you tell me how it felt being an only child, did you feel that there were expectations from you as an only child that wouldn’t be there if you had siblings?

If you choose the second, you wrote that “he would shut down when he was upset so it was hard to settle disputes”. What did you do when you were upset, how did you try to settle disputes with him?

anita