Dear Regi:

I don’t know how I missed your post from five days ago. If I knew of it I would have responded earlier, the day you posted or the day after.

You wrote above about your brother that he is not an a*&^%. Well, he was exactly that on that Saturday evening, at your grandmother’s dinner table when he said what he said.

You asked about my shame, if there was something specific I experienced. My answer: there were many, many events that I don’t remember, some that I do. I don’t have a single memory, like yours, a single  memory that triggered intense anxiety that was not there before and that spread and grew after.

Shame for me started early and it is something I lived with for decades. I am still in the process of healing from it, from shame, from anxiety.

anita