Dear Minnivei:

I know very little about your situation. With the little I understand about your situation, these are my suggestions:

1. Because you are inclined to feel guilty, because of your strong ethical sensitivity (and because it is socially responsible), make sure that your current and future choices are ethical, in your own evaluation.  Resolve to act ethically and your guilt will lessen for making such a resolution.

2. Don’t burden yourself with seeing to it that your mother has any more than her basic needs met: adequate food, shelter, basic utilities and medical care.

3. Separate yourself from the business best you can, completely if possible and soon.

4. Do not try to please the sister who is unwilling to cooperate with you. Do not have a relationship with her at any cost to you.

5. Aim at becoming emotionally and otherwise independent from the business and from your family. You are 22. It is a shame that you are not  living your life for you and that instead you are burdened as you are. It is your life, after all, born to be free, not born to be shackled by false family responsibilities.

anita