Dear berfiniel:

A mental disorder diagnosis is not necessarily a life sentence. It is possible to heal. I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder seven years ago. But I figured I exhibited the symptoms and qualified for the diagnosis all my adult life, way before the diagnosis.

Thing is, I no longer qualify for the diagnosis and haven’t for a long time.

These diagnoses are collections of symptoms, collections determined by psychiatrists. The core issues, the issues underneath, are much the same for everyone, mainly anxiety. I think that anxiety expresses itself in multitude of symptoms and collections of symptoms, aka diagnoses.

A mental diagnosis can be a tool for a therapist to start treatment. This was so in my case. And it worked. I am still in the process of healing from the core issue, anxiety and much progress is being done.

Regardless of our diagnoses, we are responsible for our behaviors, responsible to do-no-harm to others, for one. And so, if you were to resume a relationship with your ex long distance boyfriend, you will need to be able to do-no-harm to him as he reciprocates, of course.

Your thoughts?

anita