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April 26, 2018 at 7:07 am #204173
ravennathedarkParticipantHi!
Here is my story;
We’ve dated with this guy for 16 months. It was a long distance relationship but it never bothered us. one day i woke up and told myself that i hate him and i have to break up with him, so i did. He begged and pleaded for 5 months straight to get me back. I mean, i wanted to get back with him but i couldn’t because i didn’t trust myself back then.
One day, he stopped talking to me.But it happened right after he told me he loves me no matter what bla bla. He told me that he stopped believing in our relationship and even if we get back that we would have a toxic relationship.
After he told me that i was mentally unstable, i went to a psychiatrist. And guess what? I was diagnosed with bipolar!
He doesn’t know about my disorder. But i don’t wanna tell him that because i don’t want him to pity me.
Mehh i really don’t know what to do. Yes, i love him and i’m kind of sure he loves me too but as you can see, im desperate.
April 26, 2018 at 10:50 am #204293
AnonymousGuestDear berfiniel:
I would like to understand better, therefore I ask:
You wrote, “i’m desperate” – desperate to resume the long distance relationship with him?
The title of your thread is “I’m bipolar and he left me”, but according to your share you left him and kept the long distance relationship broken through five months of him pleading with you to get back together. How/ when did he leave you?
anita
April 26, 2018 at 10:19 pm #204459ravennathedarkParticipantmy answer to your first question is yes.
I didn’t know what i was doing when i left him first. As you can tell people with bipolar have unstable emotions,thoughts and motions. And then after 5 months i finally got myself together and told him that i wanted to get back but after that he called me “unstable” since then we haven’t talked. it’s been almost 2 months now.
the hardest thing is mental disorders are like having cancer. you don’t have the right to choose it. but most of people don’t seem to understand it. they think we only find excuses for our acts.
April 27, 2018 at 2:02 am #204467AnonymousGuestDear berfiniel:
A mental disorder diagnosis is not necessarily a life sentence. It is possible to heal. I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder seven years ago. But I figured I exhibited the symptoms and qualified for the diagnosis all my adult life, way before the diagnosis.
Thing is, I no longer qualify for the diagnosis and haven’t for a long time.
These diagnoses are collections of symptoms, collections determined by psychiatrists. The core issues, the issues underneath, are much the same for everyone, mainly anxiety. I think that anxiety expresses itself in multitude of symptoms and collections of symptoms, aka diagnoses.
A mental diagnosis can be a tool for a therapist to start treatment. This was so in my case. And it worked. I am still in the process of healing from the core issue, anxiety and much progress is being done.
Regardless of our diagnoses, we are responsible for our behaviors, responsible to do-no-harm to others, for one. And so, if you were to resume a relationship with your ex long distance boyfriend, you will need to be able to do-no-harm to him as he reciprocates, of course.
Your thoughts?
anita
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