Dear Regi:

Your question is: does your father care about you.

Let’s look for the answer in your original post on this thread:

“He makes good food for me”- he cares that you eat good food.

“and washes my clothes”- he cares that you wear clean clothes.

“If I ask him to help me, if I need something ..he  will help me”- you mean if you need something practical, such as to fix a belonging that is broken, correct?- is so, he cares that your item is not broken.

“when I confront him with something that I don’t like, he doesn’t say anything”- he doesn’t care that you don’t like something.

“when I feel sad or I’m having any kind of emotional trouble, he doesn’t say anything”- he doesn’t care that you are sad and he doesn’t care that you are experiencing emotional trouble.

“He never asks how I’m doing, he never asks how school is, he never asks where I’m going”- he doesn’t care how you are doing, how school is, or where you are going.

In summary: he cares that you eat good food, that your clothes are clean, that your belongings are not broken, but he does not care that you don’t like something, that you feel sad, that you experience any emotional trouble, how you are doing, how your school experience is, or where you are going.

Beyond your question, you wrote about your father that he “is never angry with me… He’s always happy, he is high on life.. He doesn’t show any emotions… few seconds of silence -> he changes the subject”

Reads to me that he is able to maintain his high-on-life mental state by staying away from unpleasant emotions. So when you express trouble to him, he changes the subject. He cares about his peace-of-mind and that is his priority, not your emotional well-being.

I suppose it is nothing personal, on his part, that he is like he is with everyone. Problem is a child needs emotional support, emotional reaction, concern, acknowledgment. And so, it is very personal, for you.

anita