Regi,

Your father definitely cares about you. You need to realize that some people dont know how to process emotions, or even how to show they care. Some people in life don’t know how to ask others how their life is going; you must have had a good mother (or another adult) because you noticed this behaviour and you have realized it does not feel good. You are capable of showing emotion and being the father you never had.

Forgive your father because he was never given the chance that you were given that is, to realize just how to care and show others empathy. Your father is telling you that he is incapable of helping you in those areas of your life and you will learn that this is alright. Nobody is perfect. Realizing our parents aren’t perfect is hard but necessary. It might help to see it as a type of handicap that was imposed on him when he was a child by his father. What is important is it seems he has good intentions and does not seem abusive.

Do you want to feel better about your father? I had two that were pure evil. My real father left my mother before I was born and I never met him and my step father murdered my mother.

Trust me when I say your father is doing the best he can. 🙂