Dear beginner25:

“And can you tell me when it is going to happen? 3 months from now?… I want to feel nothing for him… I want him gone so I can be happy again”- this is you being impatient. You are scared (“cos what if I can’t stop loving him”) and you want to stop loving him fast! Today, right now!

You feel emotionally attached to him. It takes time for that attachment feeling to weaken and be gone. You can’t order it to be gone. If only feelings could be gone when told to be gone, why there wouldn’t be any emotional problems for anyone. Hurt- bet gone! Gone. Anger, be gone!

If only that was possible.

Can you aim at letting the concept of patience sink in a bit, take a slow deep breath, air in. Some problems in life can be resolved quickly and immediately, such as an itch that needs to be scratched or a broken machine that needs to be fixed, but feelings such what you are feeling, that takes time and patient.

Hurry it up, try to rush it and it will take longer than if you let it be and practice patience.

anita