Yeah, I hope that too. I was hoping that she goes to therapy so she can heal her own pain, not because I thought there is something wrong with her. Her father left her and her family when she was baby. Now when I think it was not bad luck or anything that we met. We both have terrible fear of being abandoned (she told me she is afraid that I disappear). I think by acting how we act we make sure that this trauma keeps repeating itself. And this is the reason why I believe that in a perfect world we would share the responsibility of our failed relationship. It is unfortunate for her that she did not want to do that.  I hope that in some day she understands her own part in our failed relationship and gets free from this own relationship patterns and find somebody who truly loves her in a way she deserve to be loved.