Dear pineapplegirl:

Reads to me at this point, that better that you do move on from this relationship, that you let it go. Living with his mother, or living close to her, having her in your life on a regular basis reads to me like a bad plan. I see her attacking you covertly if not overtly, indirectly, if not directly and I see him expecting you to live with it. Not a good plan. Not at all.

And so, I join your friends in recommending that you indeed place this relationship in your past. Long term, you will feel better for it, much better.

anita