Dear pineapplegirl:

There is no easy solution at the moment, is there. Whatever you choose there is some misery to follow: if you do manage to marry this man, there will be the misery of his mother in your life and his support of his mother. If you don’t marry him, there is the society’s pressure to marry, judging you negatively for not being married. You may then rush to marry someone else, and that may not be a good  marriage.

I  would say best for you  is to not rush to a solution at the moment. Think and evaluate the situation over time, best you can. Perhaps you being of a wealthy family can be useful for you, maybe counseling will help, counseling with a qualified person who is very aware of the culture and all that is involved.

anita