Hi Meow Anna,

You and he cannot put 50/50 into the House Account or for you to go Dutch if he is making so much more than you. It doesn’t make sense! Why don’t you simply put less into the house account and more into your personal account? The bills will still get paid and you have enough for things you want and for a rainy day.

I also suggest you move. He will be shocked, but it will be the wake up call he needs to talk about the financial situation. This way you will also see each other and he won’t take you for granted. You will actually enjoy your time with him more after the initial upset.

Lastly, are you thinking about marriage? If you are, then you REALLY need to sit down with him and talk about this, preferably with a financial advisor. He will tell you what other couples do in this situation.

Best,

Inky