Dear Juna:

You wrote: “Part of me feel that he is  a  good man except this lack of communication”- reads to me  that his silent treatment is not happening on his part  because he doesn’t  know how to communicate. Reads to me that  he  is communicating  something to you by this silent treatment. Maybe  he is communicating the following: “if you give  me any trouble, I  will punish you!”

The punishment is  the silent treatment. Do you think this is what he is  communicating to you, that he  doesn’t want you to complain about anything, that he  doesn’t want  you to  upset him in any way, and that  if  you will upset him (say the wrong thing perhaps, at the wrong time), he will punish you with his silence or a break up…?

anita