Dear beginer25:

Yes, reality often sucks. As to your question, being true to yourself is very important, so I recommend that you remain true to yourself and not act in ways that are not true to you, such as “kiss guys on parties or play around”.

We agree that reality sometimes or often sucks, is unpleasant, painful, undesirable. All you can do is to increase your chances of having better experiences in life. Can’t guarantee, only improve your chances by making wiser choices all along the way, daily.

We can’t choose what we think, can’t choose what we feel, but it is possible to choose what we do. Pay attention daily to what you do and choose more and more where before you acted automatically, out of habit. The more you practice choosing in small matters, the more skilled you will be at choosing in bigger matters, such as who to get involved with and who to not get involved with.

anita