Penelope,

Your situation reflects what I understand how Love is a verb.  I believe that love does take conscious “work.”  When a parent gets up in the middle of the night to a crying child to feed him/her and comfort them, that is not the gooey and stars-in-your-eyes version of Love.  When you get in a rut with the day-in, day-out ordinary-ness of the person in front of you and would rather focus on how kind they are and other good qualities then that is Love.  Love is embracing that person whose qualities are what made you love him in the first place rather than  finding him being boring.  He is not there to make you happy.  Love is having you being happy with him.

Start a gratitude journal and write down three things that you love about him every day.

Mark