Hi Rose,

It sounds to me that you’re families are not compatible, nor are you and your ex. Your ex’s family sounds like a lot of drama and so does your ex. You said he gets angry about everything, tells you that you’re lying all the time etc, that’s alarming to me. That suggests abusive behaviour, whether he knows it or not. You seem to be always defending them and they seem to be turning on you. You might love this man, or think you do, but sometimes the best thing to do is to move on. Relationships and families shouldn’t be so turbulent, in the beginning you and your ex should have learnt how to communicate and trust each other by now, and if you were both right for each other your families wouldn’t be having such concerns. Generally, if your friends or family don’t like someone you’re seeing then they’re usually right. It sounds like he and his family will always be a problem, and may only get worse.

He actually sounds a lot like my ex, verbally abusive, manipulative, constantly told me that I was cheating on him or wanting to cheat on him, when it wasn’t true. I couldn’t do or say anything without getting into trouble, without him getting angry at me and starting a fight and the only reasoning I have is because I was 6 years younger than him and in his words I was immature, naive, gullible and easily overcome by another man who wants me. I have no idea if he was actually cheating on me or not, but I was told that when a guy becomes so insecure about what you’re doing or saying then they’re usually doing it behind your back and are now they’re paranoid for whatever reason. Your ex sounds a lot like this, maybe not completely but you are right to break up with him and I strongly think you should move on.