Hello FullOfRemorse86,

Anytime someone is pushing you to do something you do not want to do, and continues to push you to do something you do not want to do even though you have explained that you do not want to do it – this is a red flag.  What I read in your post is that the person you are head over heels in love with became needy and clingy when you told him “wait a minute, I need to think about this.”  This is also a red flag.

Now, you have rethought your position, asked him to “take you back”, and he is treating you like a puppet on a string.  I am wondering two things.  Why do you want to be in a relationship with someone who will treat you this way – he’s hemming and hawing, cancelling plans on you, barely responds when you try to talk to him??  And also, why have you not set some limits with him telling him you won’t live in limbo (notice I said “won’t,” not “can’t”.  The difference is with by saying won’t, YOU are setting the limits and are in control of your life.  Saying “can’t” puts the love of your life in control, as if you are waiting for him to make the decision!

You said he told you that he fell out of love with you in the week you were apart.  Does this sound like the kind of love you want from someone?  You also said you want to “prove to him that you love him.”  My thought is that if you love someone and they love you, it’s something you feel – and it’s a good feeling.  It’s not something to prove, or apologize for, or feel like you are doing something wrong or that they are doing you a favor.

I would stop all contact with him as of right now, and move on.

Airene