Why do you need to be in a relationship with another man….but you need to figure out this one, I will tell you something which might seem unfathomable now, but will happen eventually.

you will fall in love again. Let me tell you a story…

My elder sister was around 23 when she was heartbroken and thought she will never find love. She rejected numerous proposals for her “Arranged marriage”.

When she was 26, my father asked her to talk to a guy on call. He was a prospective groom and my father knew him well. She talked to him thinking of telling him everything about her heartbreaking love story so that either the guy rejects her or she will.

The guy listened to everything and asked her to keep talking so that he should know whose fault it actually was that my sister was in pain for such a long time. At first, She used to sigh defeated and would pick up his calls but with time, she started enjoying talking to him.

My father was noticing all this and I was his informer. 🙂

Her marriage was near about fixed to this guy when one day my father said that he does not want to marry right now.

My sister was heartbroken again. This was somewhat a year after they had started talking in the first place. My sister was shocked and sad because he did not say anything about it to her, instead told his parents so. In anger and pain, she blocked him everywhere and painfully continued with her job.

This guy was then posted in the Chennai and my sister in Banglore. My sister was 27 then.

two years later, she gets transferred to Pune and started working in a new office. She was happy in her independence but lonely at heart.

And one day she met this guy, the prospective groom, whom she detested. She got to know that he was working in the same building in a different office which was four floors above her office. Out of civility, she talked to him and he insisted they must grab dinner together. She agreed.

At dinner, He asked her why she blocked him everywhere and stopped talking to him without telling him. She asked him why he could not tell her to her face that he did not want to marry her, she told him how humiliating it was, everyone blamed her for the rejection.

And he said that his parents had told him that our father(girl’s father) did not want to marry her within this family. After a lot of conversations and confrontations for a few days, they got to know that the groom’s family wanted some dowry and since our father had not talked anything related to dowry, they told our father that the groom was not ready while told something else to the groom.

The guy said he still wants to marry her and that is why he did not marry anybody else till now. they together convinced everyone and since my parents had no objection even earlier, it was settled.

At 29, My sister found love and got married to him too.

Some love stories are not the usual- girl boy meet on their own, fall in love, struggle to convince people and then get married.

I know you have already accepted him in your mind but I feel disregarding your parents is not a good thing.

I remember I liked a guy in my school years. He approached me when I was in college but after talking for few days, I got to know that He belonged to SC category and Although I don’t differentiate amongst people, I see relationships as permanent which means that If I fall for someone, I envisage my future with them. In this case, I knew the only way I can marry this guy is by disappointing my parents and it was something very foolish to me. I told him the real reason that we are brahmins and you belong to a scheduled caste, your parents will be fine with me but my parents will disown me. And My parents are, and will always come first in my life. They have given me all comforts and took care of all my needs, I cannot go against them. He was a nice man but he would have never fit into my family. My family is reputed in my city, because of my grandparents as well as my father and I cannot throw it all away for my momentary happiness(I know I cannot be happy if my parents don’t communicate with me). He was hurt but he understood, He got married a year ago, people in his community get married early. If I had committed to him, I would have to forget my career and my dreams.

While love is nice and feels like everything, One can love again and again. When it comes to passion, now that is rare. But not impossible to find, choose someone who shares your thoughts and ideas but has different hobbies(Maybe one should be same in order to enjoy it together). Even if arranged, your marriage would not be forced on you. You can still choose and negotiate.

Tell me more of your thoughts.