Dear John:

Your express yourself as if there is great urgency in your life situation, as if it is getting worse by the minute, as if the sky is falling down.

Nothing much happened for a long time in your love life, nothing changed. You want to ask your ex girlfriend if she will consider resuming the relationship with you. Ask her then, clearly, directly, with no dramatics, no excess words, no going on about how you feel. Be pragmatic, to the point. Let her know that you will not argue with her answer, that you will not plead your case, that you will accept her answer graciously and make the call short.

anita